mommy maverick

You work hard, day in and day out, pouring your heart and soul into your job to drive positive changes within your organization. You’re dedicated to taking care of business, and you wholeheartedly believe that you deserve more. Maybe you’re seeking financial recognition, or perhaps you’re aspiring to a promotion, believing that a new title would carry greater weight and grant you more influence. You recognize that you’ve earned these rewards, but when it comes time to speak up, fear holds you back.

Most working moms, myself included, struggle with this mental tug-of-war. Why is it that we are so reluctant to ask for what we feel we deserve in the workplace? Here are a few reasons:

• Gender stereotypes: societal gender stereotypes can lead women to believe that they should be modest, nurturing, and accommodating, making them less likely to assertively ask for what they deserve.

• Lack of confidence: women, on average, may have lower confidence in their abilities and qualifications compared to men, making them less likely to put themselves forward for promotions or raises.

• Fear of backlash or job insecurity: women may be reluctant to ask for raises or promotions due to concerns about job security and a fear that they may be replaced or viewed as difficult to work with.

• Concerns about work-life balance: women may be concerned that increased responsibilities in higher positions may negatively impact their work-life balance, especially if they have children to care for.

Let’s have an honest conversation with ourselves. Many of us, as Mom-Mavs, often grapple with the notion that asserting our needs might cast us in an unflattering light. Society, especially for women and mothers, emphasizes selflessness. Advocating for ourselves can sometimes seem at odds with this virtue, leading to feelings of discomfort and uncertainty.

Here’s the good news – you have the power to skillfully navigate conversations about raises and promotions at work and secure what you rightfully deserve. Let’s dive into some valuable tips on how to make it happen:

• Know your worth: Do your homework. Research industry standards and salary benchmarks to understand your worth in the job market. Websites like Glassdoor, LinkedIn, and Payscale can provide valuable insight.

• Highlight your track record: Collect evidence of your achievements, such as exceeding targets, taking on extra responsibility, and contributing to the company’s success. Emphasize your skills, experience and the unique qualities you bring to the table. Be prepared to explain how these contribute to your team and the company’s goals.

• Time it right: Approach your manager at a strategic time, such as after you’ve achieved a significant milestone or taken on new responsibilities. Politely ask for a meeting and clearly express your intentions in advance.

• Be professional & confident: Keep the conversation professional, focusing on your accomplishments and contributions rather than personal needs. Exude confidence and self-assuredness during the negotiation. Maintain eye contact and speak with conviction. Actively listen to your manager’s feedback and/or concerns and offer solutions.

• Communicate your goals: Share your long-term career objectives, demonstrating your commitment to the company and your aspiration to grow.

• Consider Additional Benefits: Think beyond salary. Consider flexible hours, remote work, additional vacation days, professional development opportunities or a better job title.  Remember to be flexible and willing to compromise while still achieving your core objectives. It’s about finding common ground.

• Seek Support: Seeking guidance from a mentor or coach (like me) can help you further develop negotiation skills and increase self-confidence to make sure you are prepared for these discussions.

Negotiating for a raise or promotion is an essential part of career advancement. By preparing thoroughly, presenting a strong case, and maintaining a confident and professional demeanor, you can navigate these negotiations successfully and continue to progress in your career while balancing the demands of motherhood.

Your Coach,

Kristyn